Holding on to someone who doesn't care

Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Forgetting that you are special too

People think that the most painful thing in life is losing the one you value, the truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of valuing someone too much and forgetting that you are special too.

It’s only after you’ve lost everything that you’re free to do anything.

When a loved one’s gone

Those we love remain with us, for love itself lives on.
And cherished memories never fade because a loved one is gone…
Those we love can never be more than a thought apart.
For as long as there is memory they’ll live on in the heart.

Death is nothing at all

Death is nothing at all.

I have only slipped away to the next room.

I am I and you are you.

Whatever we were to each other,

That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.

Speak to me in the easy way

which you always used.

Put no difference in your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity nor sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me.

Let my name be ever the household word

That it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect.

Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same that it ever was.

There is absolute unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of my mind

Because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.

For an interval.

Somewhere. Very near.

Just around the corner.

All is well.

- Henry Scott Holland

The way sadness works

The way sadness works

is one of the strange riddles of the world.

If you are stricken with a great sadness,

you may feel as if you have been set aflame,

not only because of the enormous pain,

but also because your sadness may spread over your life,

like smoke from an enormous fire.

You might find it difficult to see anything but your own sadness,

the way smoke can cover a landscape

so that all anyone can see is black.

You may find that if someone pours water all over you,

you are damp and distracted,

but not cured of your sadness,

the way a fire department can douse a fire

but never recover what has been burnt down.

- Lemony Snicket

I'd bring you home again.

If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I’d walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. 

One person is missing

Sometimes when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated.
- Lamartine

Take care of you

Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter.  If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.  Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you.  And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.

Beautiful people do not just happen.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.
These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.
Beautiful people do not just happen.
- Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

When friends stop being frank...

When friends stop being frank and useful to each other,
the whole world loses some of its radiance…
- Anatole Broyard

With every breath you take, you’ll be taking one for me…

As I sit in heaven, and watch you every day,I try to let you know with signs, I never went away.I hear you when you’re laughing, and I watch you while you sleep.I even place my arms around you to calm you as you weep.I see you wishing these days away, begging to have me home.So I try to send you signs so you’ll know you’re not alone.Don’t feel so guilty that you have life that was denied to me.Heaven is truly beautiful, just you wait and see.So live your life, laugh again, enjoy yourself, be free.Then I know with every breath you take, you’ll be taking one for me…