I’m different too.

I don’t care if you are different. I like you

Your right to grow

No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.
- Alice Walker

What is a friend?

A friend is like the plant that grows in the same place as where you planted the seed. And this plant provides all of your needs and tranquilizes your anxiety. They nullify your fears and follow you to find peace. So many people will plant seeds and nothing will grow and yet they will still be misguided in to believing this is the actions of a friend. Others will spend no time planting the seeds and expect that plant to grow. This is not the basis of a true friendship either.

When they speak their mind and you have no fears to disagree. When they’re silent and yet you know their thoughts. When they’re gone and you don’t miss them, because what you love about them becomes more clear in their absence, than when they’re standing by your side. A friend does not try to dry up the ocean of your happiness, nor put out the fire of your wrath. They don’t resent your fortune, nor smile at your grief. They accept you for either and love you for neither.

A friend is as loyal to you as you to them. They do not lie, because they know you can accept the truth. They do not steal because they know you can accept the truth. They do not steal because they know you would give it to them if they asked, and they would supply you the same. They recognize your dreams and do nothing to stand in the way of them, but rather guide you toward them.

They do all this, because they know you would to the same. A friend is a rare commodity that a person will only find a few times in the span of their life. During the hours of days spent freely, these hours should be spent with them. For hours are minimal and if they truly are a friend, these hours belong to them.

It is important when finding a friend that you keep them, by making absolutely sure you are one as well.

...and they’ll still love me for it

That’s what I want. I want a real friendship with someone who I can trust with all my secrets, and all my weird habits, and all my nerdy little things – and they’ll still love me for it.

If you know someone who’s depressed

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation, depression just is, like the weather.

Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who is depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest and best things you will ever do.
- Stephen Fry

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No, I’m not a bitch...

No, I’m not a bitch.
I’ve just been through a few things,
Seen a few things, been there and done that.
Yes, I guess I’m cold now.
But only because I once gave a damn
About someone who didn't give a damn about me.
I've built a wall around myself,
To protect my heart from more hurt and damage.
I won’t believe you if you tell me you’re different.
Unless you stick around and prove it.
Words no longer mean a thing,
Your actions are everything.

Holding on to someone who doesn't care

Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Why it’s so hard to trust people...

People ask me why it’s so hard to trust people.
And I ask them why it’s so hard to keep a promise.

Be a part of your life

If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it.
So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay.

Goodbye

If someone won’t lift a finger to call you, see you, and spend time with you,
It’s time for you to lift 5 fingers and wave goodbye.

I'm sorry

An apology doesn’t mean that you were wrong, or the other person was right.
It means that your relationship is more valuable than your ego.

Friendship is a living thing

Friendship is a living thing that lasts only as long as it is nourished
with kindness, empathy and understanding.

Total freedom to be yourself

A friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself.
- Jim Morrison

And still, gently allows you to grow

A friend is one that knows you as you are,
understands where you have been,
accepts what you have become,
and still, gently allows you to grow.
- William Shakespeare

When you’re with your real friends

When you’re with your real friends you will feel rewarded and honored by the relationships that you have with them because they always appreciate and compliment your talent and abilities without feeling insecure.

Why do I call YOU friend?

Because you are always there for me.

Because I feel comfortable around you.

Because you actually hear what I say.

Because you bring out the best in me.

Because you accept me for who I am.

Because you are not afraid to tell it like it is.

Because you make me smile.

Because you are down to earth.

Because you make me feel loved.

Because we have so much fun together.

Time to make new friends

If your friends won’t make time for you, maybe it’s time you make new friends.

Definition of a friend

Someone who says nice things about you when you aren't around

Friend or enemy?

It is better to have an enemy who honestly says they hate you
than a friend who’s putting you down secretly.