All great changes are preceded by chaos

On the right track

You know you’re on the right track when you become uninterested in looking back.

May the brides I burn light the way

Which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn

The hardest thing in life is knowing which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn.

Don’t confuse your path with your destination

Don’t confuse your path with your destination.
Just because it’s stormy now doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine.

A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor

Destiny

A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it.
- de La Fontaine

Picture: ponderabout.com

Never regret anything that made you smile

Life is short.
Break the rules.
Forgive quickly, kiss slowly,
love truly, laugh uncontrollably,
and never regret anything that made you smile.

Someone who changes your life just by being part of it

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend; someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop; someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it.

How are you?

Fine.

(Broken. Useless. Alone. Clueless. Confused. Betrayed. Fragile. On the verge of tears. Depressed. Anxious. About to break down. Ready to give up. Pathetic. Annoying. I’m just a burden. Distant. Lonely. Bitter. Heartbroken. Lonely. Rejected. Crushed. I feel like I’m going to fall apart at any moment. Empty. Defeated. Never good enough.)

Instead of killing yourself

Wait until
A year from now
Where you say,
“Holy fuck,
I can’t believe I was going to kill myself before I etcetera’d….
Before I went skinny dipping in Tennesee,
Made my own IPA.
Tried out for a game show,
Rode a camel drunk,
Skydived alone,
Learned to waltz with clumsy old people,
Photographed electric jellyfish,
Built a sailboat from trash,
Taught someone how to read
Etc. etc. etc.”
The red washing
down the bathtub
can’t change the color of the sea
at all. 

(But before you wait, get the professional help you deserve. Time doesn't always heal but a qualified doctor can help you get there.)

Magic is believing in yourself.

Magic is believing in yourself. If you can do that, you can make anything happen.
- J.W Van Goethe.

Respect yourself to walk away

Respect yourself to walk away from anything
that no longer serves you,
grows you, or makes you happy.

Some people can stay in your heart

At some point, you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life.

We only regret the chances we didn't take

In the end,
we only regret the chances we didn't take,
relationships we are afraid to have,
and the decisions we waited too long to make.

Sometimes they’re worth it

In this world we have to take chances,
sometimes they’re worth it and sometimes they’re not.
But I’m telling you now, you will never know until you try.

You have survived your entire life

If you are reading this,
you have survived your entire life until this point.
You have survived traumas, heartbreak, devastation,
the different phases of life.

And here you are.
You go, motherfucker.
You’re awesome.

Fear of trusting people

Pistanthrophobia
is the very common fear of trusting people
due to past experiences with relationships gone bad.

Picture: psychofactz.tumbler.com

So stand up and fight

Do you think that your life has so many problems?
Believe me they are nothing in front of other living beings
who have to encounter death daily just for drinking water.
So stand up and fight.
Never give up!

Loneliness and trust

One of the key ideas in loneliness research is trust and what they have found is that the more trusting you are as an individual the less likely you are to have problems with loneliness…

The more distrustful you are, one researcher used the word automatic, you will automatically start having more problems with loneliness. And you can take that back to childhood where you can learn a trusting way of being with your care giver or you can learn perhaps that care giver isn’t someone you can fully trust. And if the latter scenario was true for you you’re going to be less and less trusting, not just of your care giver but of the other people you come across in life.

That’s usually referred to as “anxious attatchment” and if that is the situation you’re facing, if you’ve grown up rightly or wrongly thinking that the only person you can truly rely on is yourself, you will definitely be a good candidate for loneliness.
- Emily White

Picture: ponderabout.com