It hurt because it mattered

So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
- John Green

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Someone who knows the song in your heart

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart
and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

I think too much and then I put myself in a bad mood

The walls we build around us...

The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy.
- Jim Rohn

How are you?

Fine.

(Broken. Useless. Alone. Clueless. Confused. Betrayed. Fragile. On the verge of tears. Depressed. Anxious. About to break down. Ready to give up. Pathetic. Annoying. I’m just a burden. Distant. Lonely. Bitter. Heartbroken. Lonely. Rejected. Crushed. I feel like I’m going to fall apart at any moment. Empty. Defeated. Never good enough.)

I usually keep my sadness pent up inside...

I usually keep my sadness pent up inside where it can fester quietly as mental illness.

How deep is the sea?

Hurting someone can be as easy as throwing a stone in the sea…
But do you have any idea how deep that stone can go?

You are living with something that you keep hidden deep inside

As I see it,
you are living with something that you keep hidden deep inside.
Something heavy.
I felt it from the first time I met you.
You have a strong gaze,
as if you have made up your mind about something.
To tell you the truth,
I myself carry such things around inside.
Heavy things.
That is how I can see it in you.
- Haruki Murakami

No, I’m not a bitch...

No, I’m not a bitch.
I’ve just been through a few things,
Seen a few things, been there and done that.
Yes, I guess I’m cold now.
But only because I once gave a damn
About someone who didn't give a damn about me.
I've built a wall around myself,
To protect my heart from more hurt and damage.
I won’t believe you if you tell me you’re different.
Unless you stick around and prove it.
Words no longer mean a thing,
Your actions are everything.

Sandess gives roots. Happiness gives branches.

Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height.
Sandess gives roots. Happiness gives branches.
Happiness is like a tree going into the sky,
And sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth.
Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously.
The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots.
In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.
- Osho

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They will break no matter what we do

I am tired of trying to hold things together that cannot be held. Trying to control what cannot be controlled. I am tired of denying myself what I want for fear of breaking things I cannot fix.
They will break no matter what we do.

To be honest with you, I don’t have the words to make you feel better

To be honest with you, I don’t have the words to make you feel better, but I do have the arms to give you a hug, ears to listen to whatever you want to talk about, and I have a heart… a heart that’s aching to see you smile again.

One of the simplest ways to stay happy...

One of the simplest ways to stay happy is letting go of the things that makes you sad.

When a loved one’s gone

Those we love remain with us, for love itself lives on.
And cherished memories never fade because a loved one is gone…
Those we love can never be more than a thought apart.
For as long as there is memory they’ll live on in the heart.

Death is nothing at all

Death is nothing at all.

I have only slipped away to the next room.

I am I and you are you.

Whatever we were to each other,

That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.

Speak to me in the easy way

which you always used.

Put no difference in your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity nor sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me.

Let my name be ever the household word

That it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect.

Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same that it ever was.

There is absolute unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of my mind

Because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.

For an interval.

Somewhere. Very near.

Just around the corner.

All is well.

- Henry Scott Holland

The way sadness works

The way sadness works

is one of the strange riddles of the world.

If you are stricken with a great sadness,

you may feel as if you have been set aflame,

not only because of the enormous pain,

but also because your sadness may spread over your life,

like smoke from an enormous fire.

You might find it difficult to see anything but your own sadness,

the way smoke can cover a landscape

so that all anyone can see is black.

You may find that if someone pours water all over you,

you are damp and distracted,

but not cured of your sadness,

the way a fire department can douse a fire

but never recover what has been burnt down.

- Lemony Snicket

I'd bring you home again.

If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I’d walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. 

One person is missing

Sometimes when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated.
- Lamartine