While I fix myself

I didn’t need you to fix me, I needed you to love me while I fix myself.

Pick them wisely

People inspire you, or they drain you – pick them wisely.
- Hans F Hansen

The greatness that you are

Don’t you dare, for one more second,
surround yourself with people
who are not aware of the greatness that you are.

What is a friend?

A friend is like the plant that grows in the same place as where you planted the seed. And this plant provides all of your needs and tranquilizes your anxiety. They nullify your fears and follow you to find peace. So many people will plant seeds and nothing will grow and yet they will still be misguided in to believing this is the actions of a friend. Others will spend no time planting the seeds and expect that plant to grow. This is not the basis of a true friendship either.

When they speak their mind and you have no fears to disagree. When they’re silent and yet you know their thoughts. When they’re gone and you don’t miss them, because what you love about them becomes more clear in their absence, than when they’re standing by your side. A friend does not try to dry up the ocean of your happiness, nor put out the fire of your wrath. They don’t resent your fortune, nor smile at your grief. They accept you for either and love you for neither.

A friend is as loyal to you as you to them. They do not lie, because they know you can accept the truth. They do not steal because they know you can accept the truth. They do not steal because they know you would give it to them if they asked, and they would supply you the same. They recognize your dreams and do nothing to stand in the way of them, but rather guide you toward them.

They do all this, because they know you would to the same. A friend is a rare commodity that a person will only find a few times in the span of their life. During the hours of days spent freely, these hours should be spent with them. For hours are minimal and if they truly are a friend, these hours belong to them.

It is important when finding a friend that you keep them, by making absolutely sure you are one as well.

Someone who changes your life just by being part of it

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend; someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop; someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it.

Imagine meeting someone who understood...

Imagine meeting someone who understood even the dustiest corners of your mixed-up soul.

...and they’ll still love me for it

That’s what I want. I want a real friendship with someone who I can trust with all my secrets, and all my weird habits, and all my nerdy little things – and they’ll still love me for it.

We only regret the chances we didn't take

In the end,
we only regret the chances we didn't take,
relationships we are afraid to have,
and the decisions we waited too long to make.

Let go of all the toxic people in your life

Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life,
you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential.
Let them go so you can grow.

Fear of trusting people

Pistanthrophobia
is the very common fear of trusting people
due to past experiences with relationships gone bad.

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You are living with something that you keep hidden deep inside

As I see it,
you are living with something that you keep hidden deep inside.
Something heavy.
I felt it from the first time I met you.
You have a strong gaze,
as if you have made up your mind about something.
To tell you the truth,
I myself carry such things around inside.
Heavy things.
That is how I can see it in you.
- Haruki Murakami

No, I’m not a bitch...

No, I’m not a bitch.
I’ve just been through a few things,
Seen a few things, been there and done that.
Yes, I guess I’m cold now.
But only because I once gave a damn
About someone who didn't give a damn about me.
I've built a wall around myself,
To protect my heart from more hurt and damage.
I won’t believe you if you tell me you’re different.
Unless you stick around and prove it.
Words no longer mean a thing,
Your actions are everything.

It’s better to have nobody than...

It’s better to have nobody,
than to have someone who is half there,
or someone who doesn't even want to be there.

Holding on to someone who doesn't care

Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Loneliness and trust

One of the key ideas in loneliness research is trust and what they have found is that the more trusting you are as an individual the less likely you are to have problems with loneliness…

The more distrustful you are, one researcher used the word automatic, you will automatically start having more problems with loneliness. And you can take that back to childhood where you can learn a trusting way of being with your care giver or you can learn perhaps that care giver isn’t someone you can fully trust. And if the latter scenario was true for you you’re going to be less and less trusting, not just of your care giver but of the other people you come across in life.

That’s usually referred to as “anxious attatchment” and if that is the situation you’re facing, if you’ve grown up rightly or wrongly thinking that the only person you can truly rely on is yourself, you will definitely be a good candidate for loneliness.
- Emily White

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Be a part of your life

If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it.
So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay.

I'm sorry

An apology doesn’t mean that you were wrong, or the other person was right.
It means that your relationship is more valuable than your ego.

When you’re with your real friends

When you’re with your real friends you will feel rewarded and honored by the relationships that you have with them because they always appreciate and compliment your talent and abilities without feeling insecure.

In order to find yourself

In life there are some people you’re going to have to lose in order to find yourself.

Those who see the greatness within you

Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers,
the believers and the thinkers, but most of all,
surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you,
even when you don’t see it yourself.
- Edmund Lee