One of the key ideas in loneliness research is trust and what they have found is that the more trusting you are as an individual the less likely you are to have problems with loneliness…
The more distrustful you are, one researcher used the word automatic, you will automatically start having more problems with loneliness. And you can take that back to childhood where you can learn a trusting way of being with your care giver or you can learn perhaps that care giver isn’t someone you can fully trust. And if the latter scenario was true for you you’re going to be less and less trusting, not just of your care giver but of the other people you come across in life.
That’s usually referred to as “anxious attatchment” and if that is the situation you’re facing, if you’ve grown up rightly or wrongly thinking that the only person you can truly rely on is yourself, you will definitely be a good candidate for loneliness.
- Emily White
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