Your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.

Loneliness and trust

One of the key ideas in loneliness research is trust and what they have found is that the more trusting you are as an individual the less likely you are to have problems with loneliness…

The more distrustful you are, one researcher used the word automatic, you will automatically start having more problems with loneliness. And you can take that back to childhood where you can learn a trusting way of being with your care giver or you can learn perhaps that care giver isn’t someone you can fully trust. And if the latter scenario was true for you you’re going to be less and less trusting, not just of your care giver but of the other people you come across in life.

That’s usually referred to as “anxious attatchment” and if that is the situation you’re facing, if you’ve grown up rightly or wrongly thinking that the only person you can truly rely on is yourself, you will definitely be a good candidate for loneliness.
- Emily White

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Be a princess and Darth Vader

Every girl should be able to be a princess and Darth Vader at the same time.

25 manners kids should know

1. When asking for something, say ”Please”.
2. When receiving something, say “Thank you”.
3. Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking to each other unless there is an emergency.
4. If you need to get somebody’s attention right away, the phrase “excuse me” is the most polite way to enter the conversation.
5. When you have any doubt about something, ask for permission first.
6. The world is not interested in what you dislike.
7. Do not comment on other people’s physical characteristics unless, of course, it’s to compliment them.
8. When people ask how you are, tell them and ask how they are.
9. When you have spent time at your friend’s house, remember to thank his or hers parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
10. Knock on closed doors – and wait to see if there’s a response – before entering.
11. When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first.
12. Say “thank you” and handwrite a thank you note after receiving a gift.
13. Never use foul language.
14. Don’t call people mean names.
15. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason.
16. Even if a play or assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend you are interested. The performers or presenters are doing their best.
17. If you bump into someone, immediately say “excuse me”
18. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze and don’t pick your nose in public.
19. As you walk through a door, look and see if you can hold it open for someone else.
20. Always offer help.
21. When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
22. When someone helps you, say “thank you”.
23. Use eating utensils properly.
24. Keep a napkin on your lap; use t to wipe your mouth if necessary.
25. Do not reach at the table.

Growing old

Growing old is unavoidable, but never growing up is possible. I believe you can retain certain things from your childhood if you protect them – certain traits, certain places where you don’t let the world go.
- Johnny Depp